Okay ladies, we all heard men use the term “ride or die” in reference to wanting a woman to be there for her man through ANYTHING, even if he’s not treating you up to par. Singer Keri Hilson took to Twitter recently to express how much she’s grown over the past few years and how she isn’t a “ride or die” chick. Keri, who split from retired NFL’er Ricardo Lockette late last year tweeted,
It seems a lot of men are looking for the woman who can tolerate the most bullshit.
God FORBID she has a requirement for you to treat her right…listen to her…compromise…keep your promises and act on solutions…or have the nerve to have a deal breaker? Oh no!!
You will not trample on my heart or feelings & keep ME. I ain’t no ride or die. Yall can have that.
I tried it once. Know what I got? BOLDER bullshit. No matter what I said/did as a consequence, the ultimate action of giving him another chance each time I was disrespected sent him the wrong message about me. “Weak ass bitch” was all HE saw. Never again. I love me too much.
The whole ride or die concept rubs me wrong. Love is not a contest to see how much pain I can withstand. How many burdens of your boyhood I can carry for your comfort, despite mine. How many untrustworthy situations I can jump over, with an uncertain hope that MAYBE you’ll grow out of putting us in them. How many of your satisfaction I can facilitate while mine are left unaddressed. QUEENS don’t enter that sh-t. We gone get to this finish line with equal effort.
Over these years, I’ve done a lot of soul searching. A LOT. My pain has brought me so much compassion, wisdom, maturity, focus, clarity, and a sense of responsibility to be a great human of great purpose. I care about how God sees me. I want Him to look down & be proud.
Yeah I’m ALL FOR riding thru financial, emotional, spiritual lows…all the ups & downs of life. We gone ride. But these days “ride or die” seems to have taken on a new meaning…of men expecting women to accept infidelity & inappropriate behavior.
Do you agree with Hilson’s point of view?
By: @Aniyah Evans